Love is a many splendored thing
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Married for 70 years, the Hempstead couple overcame Manny coming home from World War II a triple amputee, but easily understand it could have been worse. “He was wounded right after American troops went over into Germany and three days before the Battle of the Bulge,” Mickey said.
Both couples careers were as varied as their interests which gave them plenty to talk about. Martin was a civil engineer in New York City, then was a regional director for the federal Department of Energy. Helen was a social worker and taught in Valley Stream’s District, “for 18 wonderful years.”
Settling conflicts is a matter of understanding what is essential and what is not. “You come to the realization that isn’t that important and you have to give in, you can’t always have your way,” Helen said. “If one person thinks more strongly you have to recognize that and back off,” Martin said.
Mickey taught at the center and sculpted, and Manny worked as manufacturer’s representative of early American furniture for several companies. After he retired, Manny held a volunteer position in ornithology at the Museum of Natural History. They handle arguing different, but ultimately make up. “He forgets about it right away and yells, I sulk, get mad, but it eventually passes,” said Mickey, adding that she is suspicious of people who don’t disagree.
The couples were fortunate enough to have children in their lives. Martin and Helen have three sons, six grandchildren and two step-grandchildren. Manny and Mickey have three children, six grandchildren and two great-grandchildren, with one on the way.
With years of marital experience on their resumes, the couples do have advice for the younger generation. “Realize a hint,” said Helen, alluding to a story Martin told that though he likes coconut Mounds candy bars, but he doesn’t like coconut custard pie. Helen made one once. She never made one again. “Continue to be intimate,” Martin said, “and attentive to the needs of the other.”