2. Tweak Your Speaking by Changing “Shoulds” to “Coulds”
The word “should” connotes the “right” way to do something. As a perfectionist, you’ve probably adopted a whole bunch of harsh and burdensome “shoulds,” making you feel more encumbered than empowered. Eventually, you may come to believe that you have no choice in much of what you do. Rather than spurring you on to higher achievement, an abundance of “shoulds” drains your energy. Hence, try substituting the word “could” for “should.” When you do, you’ll notice yourself feeling more empowered. Why? Because “could” carries the mature message that you have the right, capacity and obligation to make choices about what you’ll take care of in any given day.
3. Tweak Your Actions by Creating a Time Limit for Completing a Task
Time is finite. We each have 24 hours in a day to get things done. A hefty number of those hours are spent sleeping, grooming, working and getting to where we’re going. Include social media and digital correspondence and you’ll find that there’s only a limited amount of time left over for other tasks. So, to guarantee that you appropriate sufficient time for projects you’ve been putting off, write out a “time budget” for those tasks. To determine how much time a task will take, reflect on your past experiences. Then allow yourself 20 percent more time to deal with unexpected developments. If you’re not keeping up with your time budget it, tweak it, don’t drop it.
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Linda Sapadin, Ph.D. is a psychologist and success coach who specializes in helping people overcome self-defeating patterns of behavior. Contact her at LSapadin@DrSapadin.com or at www.BeatProcrastinationCoach.com