September 11, 2013 | 244 views
Salt and Pepper
Handling separation anxiety
We cannot deeply love anything without becoming vulnerable to loss. And we cannot become separate people, responsible people, connected people, reflective people without some losing and leaving and letting go. — Judith Voist
The parent’s thoughts may include: “How are they going to survive without me?”
What may be going through the child’s mind? “This is scary. What am I doing here? Will you ever come back?” “Why are you leaving me here with these people?”
1. There is no room for ambivalence in your decision. Children read their parents and can sense your fear and will act on that. Stay calm and smile. (You can fall apart when you get to the car.)
2. Prepare children gradually. Do not spring the change on them. Let children get familiar with new caregiver and or classroom.
3. Do not sneak out or distract children when leaving. It is helpful to talk about the separation and validate their feelings. You can even rehearse the good-bye through role playing. Your child needs time and practice to trust in your return. Saying goodbye acknowledges their feelings and shows that you believe in their ability to cope.