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Handling separation anxiety
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Dr. Shoshanah Findling and Pepper Robinson

4. Let your child have a familiar object. A book such as “The Kissing Hand” tells of a raccoon that has a special parting ritual when his mother leaves. This ritual provides comfort as he goes through this process. Have a ritual when you say goodbye each day.

5. There are going to be times, such as after holidays or long weekends, when children will backslide.

6. It is also common to see children ignore or reject parents upon return. It will take some getting used to but it is normal.

Separation anxiety demonstrates that a child has developed an attachment to you. Your child is also demonstrating that he can have an effect on his world by making his needs known. After all, you are a source of comfort, security, and nourishment and you will be missed.

This kind of loss is a necessary part of life. Children learn that others in the world can know them and love them. The experience fosters maturity and independence. Children learn to be more resourceful. Children learn that the world is made of many caring people. There are new friends to meet and the world is an exciting place.

Salt — Dr. Shoshanah Findling, certified school counselor, associate professor of Education at Touro College and on the board of directors Five Towns Early Learning Center.

Pepper — Pepper Robinson, executive director of Five Towns Early Learning Center, early childhood consultant.


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