February 13, 2013 | 837 views
Love is a many splendored thing
Secrets to long-term marital bliss: common interests and flexibility
When Emanuel ‘Manny’ Levine was thrown out of a pool hall in Borough Park Brooklyn, then crashed a New Year’s party as 1939 became 1940, he didn’t know he would met his future wife, Mickey.
After a neighbor in the Crown Heights section of Brooklyn introduced Martin Inwald to Helen, who knew that their common interests would produce a lasting relationship.
Valentine’s Day is Thursday and is a time when many couples will go out to dinner and give flowers, cards and other gifts to each other to acknowledge the love they have for one another.
However, the Inwalds and Levines understand more than most, that love goes beyond what you buy for another, it is made up of the time you spend together, and occasionally the time you spend apart.
“Naturally we had a lot in common, our parents got along well and we hit it off,” said Helen Inwald, 86, a Valley Stream resident, who along with Martin, 90, has been a member of the Center for Adult Life Enrichment in Hewlett for the past 12 years, where they have enjoyed the programs and made many great friends.
They have been married for 64 years as they met in December of 1947 and were married a year later. The timing they said was perfect as Martin had completed his military service and then finished college. Helen had returned from the University of Berkeley in California.
Their common interests include traveling, attending the theaters and visiting museums. They also learned to share each others favorite pastimes. “Flexibility,” Martin said, “I knew nothing about ballet, playing street football, that was alien entertainment, but I’ve become something of a ballet aficionado and the same thing with Helen. She had little interest in sports, but over time she has come to like them.”
After an introduction at that New Year’s party, Manny and Mickey became inseparable. “I never got rid of him,” Mickey said kiddingly. “We liked each other and had common interests we enjoyed together and our own interests.” For Mickey it is sculpture, which she has taught at the Five Towns Senior Center, now the Center for Adult Life Enrichment in Hewlett, for the past 30 years. Manny bird watches and they often travel together.