If you are frequently rearranging your life to accommodate others, reflect on your options before conceding to what someone else wants. At times you may choose to modify your plans. Other times, however, you may need to keep to your own agenda.Either way, make a choice rather than thinking that you have no choice but to yield. And even if you feel guilty about not accommodating someone else, a little guilt is better than seething inwardly and feeling taken advantage of.
2. Overworking.
If you are often frazzled by work, fried by responsibilities and resentful that you have no time to do anything that you yourself want to do, being nice is probably your nemesis. Guard against taking on tasks until you're overwrought - simply to please someone else or to do what you think is the responsible thing. Avoid the inclination to solve others' problems or take over their responsibilities.Learn to live by rules that make sense to you, instead of by the dictates of others or the no longer relevant lessons of childhood. Saying "no" more often (especially when you're thinking "no") will help you to establish priorities and set more reasonable limits on your time and energy. Plus an unexpected bonus: it will empower you and build character. For the more you learn to say "no," the greater value your "yes" will have.
