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Others feel so guilty that they automatically agree to whatever is requested of them. If you are in the latter category, there's no time like the present to learn a new skill.
Being able to say no, at appropriate times, is part and parcel of being in charge of your priorities, your time, your energy, indeed your life. As an added bonus, when you on occasion say no, your yes will increase in value. It's true. Being at someone's beck and call usually results in being less respected and less appreciated. Whoever said life is fair?
Hence, stay away from the blunt No! and the oppositional "No, I won't do it." These kinds of responses are not for you - except, perhaps, in the most extreme circumstances. Instead focus on the polite No.
■ "No, I won't be able to go with you, but thanks for asking me."
■ "No, I can't drive you now but if you still need a ride, I'll be free after 5."
■ "No, when you speak to me with that tone of voice, I won't do anything for you."
Remember, you don't need to be nasty to say No. Indeed, you can be quite pleasant and polite and still be in charge of your priorities.
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